Kay S. Hymowitz argues that too many men in their 20s are living in a new kind of extended adolescence in the controversial Wall Street Journal essay, Where Have The Good Men Gone? Here’s an excerpt:

Not so long ago, the average American man in his 20s had achieved most of the milestones of adulthood: a high-school diploma, financial independence, marriage and children. Today, most men in their 20s hang out in a novel sort of limbo, a hybrid state of semi-hormonal adolescence and responsible self-reliance. This “pre-adulthood” has much to recommend it, especially for the college-educated. But it’s time to state what has become obvious to legions of frustrated young women: It doesn’t bring out the best in men.

When men are accused of being pre-adult and not “manning up,” most of us saw our dads (and moms) “manning down” in divorce.

Never mentioned as a cause for us to say, “marriage, hell no!”

Some pre-adult men choose Xbox, but all my friends choose travel, work, passion, the arts, their businesses, and lots and lots of hopeful dating; however, many of us who are very successful and who have thrown off the shackles of convention are becoming more and more like our friends in Germany, Holland, and throughout Europe who will probably have a child before ever choosing marriage — or not.

And will probably end up being pursued rather then being the pursuer when it comes right down to shacking up for having babies — or not.